I was born with a birth defect called Apert Syndrome which is a birth defect of the hands and the face. I have had 68 operations over my lifetime. When I was born my forehead was pushed out my eyes and nose were pushed back into my head. I say all of that to say, my “dating” life has been very limited. Although I have liked and have had my fair share of crushes I have not had a girlfriend while being an adult. I believe that God does have someone out there for me, since it says in Genesis 2:18, The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Though there have been times in my life when I wondered when that time would come. Especially since I am now Thirty Eight, and start to wonder will I ever get married. I have wondered would a woman ever be able to look past that I have a disability, and look at my heart. I have done the same thing, we all look at the outside appearance of someone, why, because we want to find a person that is attractive. We must want someone who loves God, that knows Christ as their personal Lord, and Savior, and wants to follow after him. I think of it this way, do I want an old car, with a nice engine in side, or do I want a beautiful brand spanking new Porsche, with a dead engine inside, for me I want the one with the nice engine inside. Though it’s hard for me to remember that at times, even with a disability and someone that’s not the most handsomest guy on the block. I have been called many words by people, monster, freak, thankfully that doesn’t happen as often anymore. There are a lot of people in this world, especially the women that look at the beauty on the outside instead of looking at their beauty from the inside. I have done the same thing at times, I have wondered many times would I ever have that girlfriend, or get married. Yet God continues to remind me, that He has made me this way for a reason and a purpose. Psalms 139:13-16. For You formed my innermost parts; You knit me [together] in my mother’s womb. 14 I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was being formed in secret, And intricately and skillfully formed [as if embroidered with many colors] in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were appointed for me, When as yet there was not one of them [even taking shape]. I hope to urge you all today, that no matter what you look like on the outside, the most that matters is what is on the inside. I say this in my sermons that girls more than guys worry about their appearance, yes we all want to attract the opposite sex and find that person that God has for us. It doesn’t have to be by how we look on the outside, it should be a combination of how we look on the outside and inside. For those of you that read this, do not worry about what you look like, God will help you to find that person of the opposite sex that He has for you. I am standing here with you, fighting that same fight, wanting to find that date, wanting that girl to say yes, and although it’s hard I believe in time it will come. Though the hardest lesson I have had to learn is, get to know the person on the inside. The most beautiful people, you will ever find is the one that has a heart for God. God wants us to find the one that He has for us, not the one that we think we need. Ladies, the next time you look in the Mirror, if you have God living inside of you remember that you are beautiful, guys we look at the outside, though we need to look at the heart. God Bless.